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 Short of total annihilation, there can be no more fundamental change in a
		    society than the one taking place in ours, a change which has no name and
		    whose nature is unrecognized because its separate facets--crime, delinquency,
		    drugs, sexual anarchy, educational underachievement, family breakdown,
		    feminism--are perceived as separate problems, or as not problems at all,
		    but progress. The essence of the change is the abandonment of the system
		    of social organization based on male kinship and the reversion to the older
		    system of social organization based on female kinship. The statistics which
		    measure this change inch upward only one or two percentage points a year,
		    but viewed historically it is happening with electrifying speed.
 
 What makes it possible is the sexual de-regulation of women, with (in the
		    words of feminist Helen Colton) "no man, be it husband or physician, telling
		    [a woman] what she may or may not do with her own body." The idea strikes
		    at the basis of the patriarchal system, which requires that males shall share
		    equally in reproductive responsibility. Patriarchy achieves this sharing
		    by imposing the system of agnation, kinship through males, in place of kinship
		    through females such as is found in the ghettos, the islands of the Caribbean
		    and surviving Stone Age societies.
 
 What men must do to salvage the male kinship system is to safeguard the male
		    paycheck--to prevent anyone, ex-wife, house-male judge or house-male lawmaker,
		    from telling him what he may or may not do with that paycheck, and that if
		    he enters into a contract of marriage to share that paycheck with a wife
		    in exchange for her sharing of her reproductive life with him, this contract
		    shall not be abrogated for the purpose of depriving him of his children and
		    his paycheck. Early Roman society was divided into the plebeians, meaning
		    "the people" (the base of the word survives in plebiscite, a vote of the
		    people), and the patricians, the "father-people" (from patri, father), a
		    term which can have come into existence only in a society where mother-kinship
		    was normative and the idea of kinship based on fatherhood was an innovation.
		    The success of the innovation made Roman government, law and civilization
		    possible. The patricians were wealthier, more stable; and in time the plebeians
		    saw the advantages of father-kinship, which became the norm for all of Roman
		    society. Learning how to govern their families on patriarchal principles
		    made the Romans capable of governing the world. The social structure based
		    on mother-kinship is found in relatively pure form in Haiti--the most
		    impoverished, most squalid, most matriarchal nation in the Western Hemisphere.
		    Haitian women enjoy the sexual liberation Ms. Colton covets for American
		    women: the typical Haitian woman has children by three different fathers,
		    none of whom, needless to say, has a family in any meaningful sense of the
		    word, none of whom, needless to say, can be motivated to work very hard.
		    Poverty is the hallmark of societies (or areas within societies) based on
		    female kinship. When the complaint is made that the rich get richer and the
		    poor get poorer, what is meant is that patriarchal families get richer and
		    female-headed families get poorer. Feminist agitprop calls this "the feminization
		    of poverty" and tries to combat it with the Mutilated Beggar argument, or
		    with affirmative action and comparable worth programs and quotas favoring
		    women.
 
 As indicated in Chapter I, the wrecking of the patriarchal system is obscured
		    by two facts: the generation-long time-lag between cause and effect and the
		    sex-switch between generations. Let's illustrate. In 1980 crime increased
		    by a startling 17 percent. Los Angeles Police Chief Daryl Gates was
		    flabbergasted; nothing in the economy, he said, could explain it. What did
		    explain it was the huge increase in divorce and illegitimacy in the mid-1960s.
		    Back then nobody paid much attention. The children from the newly created
		    female-headed families didn't walk out of the divorce courtroom and start
		    committing crimes. But by the early 1980s the fatherless kids were entering
		    the crime-prone years, 14-24, and the skies were darkening with clouds of
		    chickens coming home to roost.
 
 Nothing has been done to lessen crime since then because nothing has been
		    done to prevent the family breakdown and illegitimacy which underlie it:
		    men are excluded from responsible participation in reproduction more effectively
		    than ever. The number of incarcerated prisoners is today almost double what
		    it was in 1980. The prisoners are nearly all male, a fact dwelt upon lingeringly
		    in feminist literature, which likes to contrast the dangerous violence of
		    the male with the harmless gentleness of the female. Feminist literature
		    passes silently over the fact that three-quarters of the male prisoners are
		    the products of female- headed households.
 
 The necessity of regulating female sexuality in order to create the stable
		    families which ensure male participation in reproduction was the discovery
		    made by our wise ancestors who created the patriarchal system several thousand
		    years ago-- following the million year prehistorical coma of the Stone Age,
		    during which society was matrilineal--built on female kinship (and female
		    promiscuity), the arrangement to which we are now reverting. Dr. Gerda Lerner
		    has been quoted in Chapter III, describing the means employed to impose the
		    patriarchal system in the times of Hammurabi (18th century B.C.). Under
		    Hammurabi's law code, "the wife enjoyed considerable and specified rights
		    in marriage" but was sexually her husband's "property." She was sexually
		    regulated by the Babylonian state, which understood, as our society does
		    not, the necessity for such regulation.
 
 Hammurabi's legislation benefited women. The woman's willingness--or in the
		    absence of her willingness, her obligation-- to submit to sexual regulation
		    gave her the bargaining power to claim the "considerable and specified rights
		    in marriage" Dr. Lerner alludes to. It enabled her to offer a man something
		    he very much wanted--a stable family and legitimate children--something he
		    could not obtain from a sexually unregulated female.
 
 Betty Friedan's 1963 book The Feminine Mystique told American housewives
		    that the "considerable rights" they obtained through marriage were an overpayment
		    for the trifling services they performed: "Society asks so little of women....It
		    was not that too much was asked of them but too little." Ms. Friedan had
		    no understanding of the pivotal fact that the "little" asked of women was
		    primarily not housework but acceptance of sexual regulation. The male's
		    reproductive marginality forced him to offer the female the extremely one-sided
		    bargain upon which Ms. Friedan poured her scorn. The benefits of this bargain
		    are being lost to men because women will not keep the marriage contract and
		    the courts will not enforce it. They are being largely lost to women by their
		    insistence on sexual autonomy and their consequent withdrawal of sexual loyalty
		    from the nuclear family, which then ceases to provide what Ms. Friedan deemed
		    a free ride for women. With that withdrawal women can no longer offer men
		    what men must have if they are to participate responsibly in reproduction.
 
 From the feminists' point of view subsidization by an ex- husband is as good
		    as subsidization by a husband; but from the man's point of view the difference
		    is total. The husband who works to support his family works to secure his
		    own role and to stabilize the civilization made possible by patriarchy. When
		    he works to subsidize his ex-wife he is undermining the institution of the
		    family and the patriarchy of which his ex-family was once a part-- working
		    (under compulsion of the legal system) to wreck civilized society rather
		    than stabilize it. He is an unwitting and unwilling (but helpless) recruit
		    in the warfare of the ages, that between matriliny and patriliny, pressed
		    into service to fight for the enemy, matriliny. Betty Friedan has suggested
		    that the feminist movement is a new biological breakthrough, "the next step
		    in human evolution":
 
		      
		      Lately, I've been
		      thinking that the ultimate implications of the women's movement are more
		      profound than we dare realize. 
 I think [the family] is just evolving to new forms. Otherwise, like the dinosaur,
		      it would become extinct.
 
 ...these phenomena of changing sex roles of both men and women are a massive,
		      evolutionary development....
 
 Evolution itself...seems to be moving in what might be called a "feminine"
		      direction.
 
		    The feminist/sexual
		    revolution is not a breakthrough but a throwback. The breakthrough was the
		    creation of patriarchy a few thousand years ago, since when the primary business
		    of society has been to maintain patriarchy by stabilizing the male role within
		    the family, a role now being undermined by the enforced subsidization of
		    ex-wives by ex-husbands--the enforced subsidizing of matriliny with money
		    formerly (and properly) used to support patriarchy. 
 Feminists protest against the double standard required by the regulation
		    of female sexuality. The double standard is an essential part of the patriarchal
		    system. Male sexuality requires less regulation because it is less important.
		    Male unchastity sets a bad example and demoralizes wives who find out about
		    it, but otherwise damages society little. Female unchastity destroys the
		    marriage contract, the family, the legitimacy of children, their patriarchal
		    socialization, the security of property and the motivation of work--destroys
		    civilized society.
 
 (Men accept a double work standard, requiring them to be more dependable,
		    more committed to their jobs, willing to accept more arduous and dangerous
		    labor and to exercise more self-discipline-- the things which account for
		    their earning more than women in the job market.)
 
 A man who wants a woman to marry him would get nowhere by telling her, "If
		    you will marry me, I will guarantee that you will be the mother of your
		    children." He is offering her nothing, since it is impossible that she should
		    not be the mother of her own children. A woman who wants a man to marry her
		    would be talking sense if she said to him, "If you will marry me, I will
		    guarantee that you will be the father of my children"--talking sense, though
		    her personal guarantee is insufficient, because women notoriously change
		    their minds, because the Promiscuity Principle claims for women the right
		    to renege on their promise of sexual loyalty, and because the legal system
		    supports this right. In the words of Mary Ann Glendon, the duty of an exiled
		    ex-husband "to provide for the needs of [his] minor children [in Mom's
		    custody]...is so important that it cannot be excluded by contract." In other
		    words, the woman's promise is worthless and the law will grant the man no
		    rights under the contract of marriage. A century ago John Stuart Mill wrote
		    "They are by law his children." Today they are by law hers and the man can
		    do nothing about it--and nothing to protect the paycheck which he earns and
		    she claims by a biological right which "cannot be excluded by contract."
		    If men consent to this spoilation, the patriarchal system is doomed. The
		    only salvation is to get the legal system to understand that it must support
		    the man's right to have a family and deny the woman's right to wreck it at
		    her pleasure. In other words, it must regulate female sexuality--or rather
		    allow the father to regulate it by allowing him control over his own paycheck,
		    a control not subject to revocation by a divorce court.
 
 This hated double standard places a burden on women but rewards them lavishly
		    for accepting it. It gives them the bargaining power which makes men willing
		    to raise their standard of living by an estimated 73 percent. Female sexual
		    autonomy forfeits this bargaining power; legal regulation of women (enforced
		    by a guarantee of father-custody in divorce) maintains it. Feminist books
		    are written about the unwillingness of men to "make a commitment" to support
		    women and about the unmarriageability of educated and economically independent
		    women, those with the highest divorce rate. These women would be beneficiaries
		    of sexual regulation, which would make them non-threatening to men and therefore
		    marriageable. Their superior education and talents-- often combined with
		    superior personal attractiveness--would become assets to themselves, to their
		    families and to society if there existed an assurance that these assets did
		    not act, as they now commonly do, as incentives to divorce.
 
 Would it not be fairer to regulate both male and female sexuality with equal
		    strictness? No; male sexuality isn't important enough. If ninety percent
		    of male sexuality were regulated the unregulated ten percent would create
		    as much sexual confusion and illegitimacy as the ninety percent--if females
		    were unregulated. The regulation of ninety percent of female sexuality would,
		    on the contrary, prevent ninety percent of sexual confusion and illegitimacy,
		    and that is why society must insist on the double standard, which both stabilizes
		    society and gives women greater bargaining power because it makes them more
		    valuable to their families and to society. The woman's chastity gives the
		    man assurance of a family; the man's motivation, created by his assurance
		    of a secure role within this family, gives the woman a higher standard of
		    living. This is the complementariness which makes patriarchal civilization
		    possible. The arrangement is now being destroyed by the removal of the man's
		    assurance of a secure role within his family.
 
 The feminist/sexual revolution and the betrayal of the family by the legal
		    system are the two chief causes of this destruction and (a generation later)
		    of the skyrocketing of crime, second- generation illegitimacy and other social
		    pathology. Other causes are the social acceptance of non-family groupings
		    as "families"; the abandonment of the idea of marriage as a legal contract;
		    the abolishing of the distinction between "good" and "bad" women; the consequent
		    abolishing of the distinction between responsible and recreational sex; the
		    acceptance of Screwtape's view that marriage is less important than a storm
		    of emotion called "being in love" ; the creation of reverse-rites-of-passage
		    to prevent the transition to adulthood (e.g., trial marriage, Esalen-type
		    group therapy in which participants break down and have a happy cry when
		    they learn that self-discipline is not required of them); the alliance of
		    sexual anarchists in academe and the media with feminists and other
		    anti-patriarchal, anti-social groups; the sentimental chivalry of lawmakers;
		    the feminist-legal attempt to make divorce into a viable alternative to marriage
		    (for women); improved computerized techniques for extorting child support
		    money from ex-husbands, techniques which make divorce attractive to women
		    and marriage unattractive to men; the lowered status given to maternal functions
		    and the higher status given to career-elitism for women; the increasing education
		    (albeit diluted education) of women; their growing economic independence;
		    the growth of the Backup System (welfare, day care programs, etc.); sex
		    mis-education of children, including pre-adolescent children, who are robbed
		    of their latency stage and pressured into premature preoccupation with sexuality;
		    the censorship of facts and ideas unpalatable to feminists--and the placing
		    of feminists in positions in bureaucracies and the media where they can exercise
		    this censorship; the qualitative erosion of education since the 1960s, including
		    the creation of Mickey Mouse programs such as Women's Studies; the abolition
		    of shame, guilt and field direction (doing what everyone else does) as social
		    controls (illustrated, e.g., by actresses flaunting their illegitimate children
		    as status symbols); the inversion of "cultural flow" (in dress, hair style,
		    music, ideas, language), formerly from the higher ranks of society to the
		    lower, now from the lower to the higher....And so forth. Small wonder feminists
		    and sexual anarchists celebrate the demise of the family and the restoration
		    of matriliny and promiscuity.
 
 They inform us that the word "family" refers to many different groupings,
		    of which the nuclear, patriarchal family is merely one, not the best. Mary
		    Jo Bane writes what is intended to be a reassuring book arguing that "American
		    families are here to stay....Americans seem deeply committed to the notion
		    that families are the best places to raise children." But her reassurance
		    is based on the fact that "the proportion of children living with at least
		    one parent" has not declined. Ms. Bane has no comprehension of what is taking
		    place: it is the one-parent (read: female-headed) family that is destroying
		    the real family and reinstating matriliny.
 
 The Hirschensohn case illustrates the manner in which the patriarchal system
		    is being undermined. Michael Hirschensohn, a Santa Monica businessman committed
		    adultery with one Carole D., wife of (though separated from) Gerald D., their
		    adultery resulting in the birth of a girl named Victoria born in May, 1981.
		    The paternity of Hirschensohn is established by blood tests said to be 98
		    percent reliable. Some time after the birth of Victoria, Carole D. and Gerald
		    D. reconciled and moved from California to New York. Hirschensohn, upset
		    over losing contact with Victoria, filed a lawsuit, which eventually reached
		    the Supreme Court, demanding the right, which he says has been unfairly denied
		    him, to prove his paternity in court, asserting "I think I'm entitled to
		    see my daughter....I'm not asking to be treated other than like a divorced
		    father."
 
 The existing law states that the woman's husband must be presumed to be the
		    child's father, a legal rule-of-thumb intended to strengthen families and
		    avoid custody battles. Hirschensohn's lawyer, Joel Aaronson, says the legal
		    rule is old fashioned and outdated and fails to take into account recent
		    changes in the American family.
 
 What Hirschensohn is demanding is the right to proclaim his daughter a bastard,
		    the right to confuse her concerning her social and family identity, the right
		    to advertise to Gerald D.'s relatives and neighbors and the public that Gerald
		    D. is a cuckold and his wife an adulteress, the right, based upon his status
		    as an adulterer, to perpetually intrude himself into Gerald D.'s household
		    for purposes of visitation, to embarrass and humiliate and weaken the family
		    bonds between Gerald D. and his wife and daughter, the right to deny to Gerald
		    D. his right, which would be unquestioned with respect to non-adulterers,
		    of protecting his home and family from the intrusion of people he doesn't
		    want to associate with.
 
 Hirschensohn says he is only asking to be treated like a divorced father,
		    which is to say he is only asking the courts to declare that marriage confers
		    no rights on husbands. He says that the current law, holding Victoria to
		    be legitimate, fails to take into account "recent changes in the American
		    family." The recent changes referred to are those which replace the Legitimacy
		    Principle by the Promiscuity Principle, and its corollary, the denial to
		    men of any right to procreate and possess legitimate children under the contract
		    of marriage.
 
 That the Supreme Court would even consent to hear such a claim is a dereliction
		    on the part of the profession whose responsibility ought to be the safeguarding
		    of the family but which has instead become the principal agent of the family's
		    destruction.
 
 According to Michael L. Oddenino of the National Council for Children's Rights,
		    Inc., who supports Hirschensohn, "modern society has essentially redefined
		    our notion of the family unit." Indeed it has, and that is why we have a
		    Garbage Generation.
 
 Hirschensohn and Carole D. are offenders against sexual law-and-order who
		    have brought suffering to Gerald D. and Victoria (and, of course themselves)
		    and have worked to undermine the institution of marriage and the stability
		    of society. But the worst villains are the practitioners of the legal system
		    and the propagandists of the feminist/sexual revolution and its Promiscuity
		    Principle. The Promiscuity Principle assured Carole D. that she alone was
		    entitled to make decisions concerning her reproductive activity; and her
		    believing this, combined with the Supreme Court's willingness to consider
		    the claimed right of an adulterer to perpetually intrude himself into the
		    privacy of another man's family, have already worked to weaken Victoria's
		    perception of her social and familial identity--her legitimacy. The patriarchal
		    system and the Legitimacy Principle would have given the girl reassurance
		    concerning these things by maintaining the fatherhood of the man whom she
		    called father, who functioned as her father, who was the husband of her mother
		    and who provided for the family of which Victoria was a member--Gerald D.
 
 No more. "Modern society has essentially redefined out notion of the family
		    unit"; "A woman has a sacred right to control her own sexuality"; and "There
		    is no such thing as an illegitimate child." If Victoria spends her life thinking
		    otherwise, thinking that there are illegitimate children and that she is
		    one of them, she can thank the unchastity of her mother, the chutzpah of
		    Hirschensohn and the weakness and lack of cognitive skill of the justices
		    of the Supreme Court in making it a matter of controversy whether the rights
		    conferred upon Gerald D. by marriage and the Legitimacy Principle are as
		    meaningful and socially desirable as the rights conferred upon Carole D.
		    by the Promiscuity Principle and the rights conferred upon Hirschensohn by
		    adultery.
 
 "Divorce," says Bishop John Spong, "has become part of the cost that society
		    must pay for the emancipation of women." The cost would be too high even
		    if the emancipation were a desideratum. It is the responsibility of society
		    not to emancipate women but to regulate them (and men too, of course) in
		    order that reproduction may take place within families, in order that children
		    may be legitimate and may be socialized according to patriarchal principles,
		    in order than men may be motivated to work and create the wealth and social
		    stability which make civilization possible, in order that property may be
		    secure and may be securely transmitted to the following generation.
 
 "In non-industrial societies," says the homosexual agitator Arthur
		    Evans,
 
		      
		      prostitutes are
		      often treated with great religious respect, and their activities are considered
		      as religious activities....[T]he ritual worship of sex and nature was once
		      the case throughout the world, and still is in the societies that industrialized
		      academics call "primitive." 
		     
		    That's why the
		    societies are "primitive" and "non-industrial"; sex for these people is
		    recreational and nothing else; they haven't figured out how to regulate it
		    and put it to work. "In the ancient Middle East," says Evans, 
		     
		      
		      the land of Canaan,
		      later invaded by the Israelites, was originally peopled by a society where
		      Gay male prostitution was very prominent. These prostitutes were located
		      in the temples. As with medieval witches, men and women who impersonated
		      sexual deities were literally thought to become them, and having sex with
		      these people was viewed as the highest and most tangible form of religious
		      communion with the deity. 
		     
		    So they thought.
		    That is why the Bible denounced Canaanite worship as "whoring after strange
		    gods" and W. Robertson Smith described it as "horrible orgies of unrestrained
		    sensuality, of which we no longer dare to speak in unveiled words." "In these
		    societies," says Evans, 
		     
		      
		      as in the case
		      of the witches, women and Gay men generally enjoyed a high status, Gay people
		      of both sexes were looked upon with religious awe, and sexual acts of every
		      possible kind were associated with the most holy forms of religious expression.
		      Admittedly, there were also great diversities and variations in the beliefs
		      and practices of these societies, but there was one great common feature
		      that set them off in sharp distinction to the Christian/industrial tradition:
		      their love of sexuality. 
		     
		    Meaning their love
		    of horrible orgies of unrestrained sensuality of which we no longer dare
		    to speak in unveiled words. Evans contrasts this sexual chaos with the
		    patriarchal system. In patriarchy, he says, 
		     
		      
		      Sex itself is locked
		      up in secrecy, privacy, darkness, embarrassment, and guilt. That's how the
		      industrial system manages to keep it under control. Among nature peoples,
		      as we have seen, sex is part of the public religion and education of the
		      tribes. It becomes a collective celebration of the powers that hold the universe
		      together. Its purpose is its own pleasure. Any group of people with such
		      practices and values can never be dominated by industrial institutions.
		     
		    Right. They cannot
		    be integrated into civilized society because they will not accept sexual
		    law-and-order. Anyone who attends a rock concert or reads the classified
		    ads in a homosexual publication must be confronted by the thought that our
		    society is becoming just such a "nature people" as Evans describes, partly
		    because it has stopped using "embarrassment and guilt" to regulate sexuality,
		    mostly because the legal system, created to maintain and stabilize families,
		    is now busily working to destroy them and (mindlessly, to be sure) to restore
		    matriliny. 
 It is judges who create most female-headed households, the breeding places
		    of the next generation's crime, illegitimacy, demoralization, and poverty.
		    They deprive households of their male breadwinners and then expect these
		    displaced breadwinners to make compensation for the damage they have inflicted.
 
 "The property which every man has in his own labor," says Adam Smith,
 
		      
		      as it is the original
		      foundation of all other property, so it is the most sacred and inviolable.
		      The patrimony of a poor man lies in the strength and dexterity of his hands;
		      and to hinder him from employing this strength and dexterity in what manner
		      he thinks proper without injury to his neighbor, is a plain violation of
		      this most sacred property. 
		     
		    The extortion of
		    child support money from ex-husbands constitutes "a plain violation of this
		    most sacred property" and men ought to resist it. 
 As indicated at the end of Chapter VI, many wives couldn't afford to throw
		    their breadwinners out if the displaced breadwinners didn't pay them to do
		    so. A father who sends his ex- wife child support money is subsidizing the
		    destruction of his own family, perpetuating the system of child-support-extortion
		    which has wrecked tens of millions of other men's families, and paying to
		    have his children placed in a female-headed household where they are several
		    times more likely to be impoverished and delinquent and demoralized and neurotic
		    and underachieving and sickly and sexually confused and drug-addicted.
 
 The father's paycheck is the stabilizer of marriage. Wives, as pointed out
		    in Chapter VIII, overwhelmingly consider a husband's primary function to
		    be that of breadwinner. The legal system has adopted the feminist view that
		    an ex-husband should perform the same breadwinning functions, a notion which
		    is placing the two- parent family and the entire patriarchal system at risk.
		    Dr. Lenore Weitzman thinks the divorce court should try "to maintain the
		    standard of living that prevailed during the marriage and, insofar as
		    practicable, to place the parties in the financial position in which they
		    would have been had their marriage not broken down." In other words, she
		    thinks the purpose of the twin institution of marriage-cum-divorce is to
		    take everything from the man and give everything to the woman--to strap the
		    man into a milking-machine forever.
 
 This forced labor for the benefit of another person--which differs in no
		    essential and no particular from slavery --is illegal but judges impose it
		    anyway because they figure the American male is so docile he will submit,
		    and because it is what he has always done in the past and what all other
		    judges do--like mindless caterpillars following one another around the rim
		    of a saucer, each supposing he is doing the right thing because he is doing
		    what the others do, what he has always done in the past. They cannot see
		    that the rise in the divorce rate from a few thousand in the mid-19th century
		    to a mind-numbing fifty percent today has altered the nature of divorce from
		    a tragedy affecting isolated members of society to a program for abolishing
		    patriarchy and returning to matriliny. They cannot see that the main reason
		    for this rise in the divorce rate is the certainty of wives that the anti-male
		    bias of the divorce court is absolutely dependable.
 
 The present divorce debacle is created by combining the Sanctity-of-Motherhood
		    principle with the Mutilated Beggar principle. In the typical case Mom divorces
		    Dad knowing that the court will assign custody on the Sanctity-of-Motherhood
		    principle, allowing her to drag the kids into risk of poverty and delinquency
		    and exploit their predicament to extort money from Dad. "It is already
		    established," writes Mary Ann Glendon,
 
		      
		      that there is a
		      legal duty to provide for the needs of one's minor children, that this duty
		      must be shared fairly between both parents, and that the duty is so important
		      that it cannot be excluded by contract. What has to be made more specific
		      and forceful is that in divorces of couples with minor children, this duty
		      must be given the foremost consideration. 
		     
		    In other words,
		    the marriage contract confers no rights on fathers, only obligations. Mom
		    plays the Motherhood Card and the legal system straightway becomes her willing
		    handmaiden, transferring her children from the patriarchal system to the
		    matriarchal system where their increased chances of poverty and delinquency
		    make them better Mutilated Beggars. 
 Dr. Glendon intends that, even without the Mutilated Beggars, Mom should
		    be rewarded by Dad "to compensate, so far as possible, for the disparity
		    which the disruption of the marriage creates in the conditions of their
		    respective lives." The compensation, says Dr. Glendon,
 
		      
		      depends on the
		      establishment of the fact of a disparity between the situations of the
		      ex-spouses, and its aim is to enable both of them to live under approximately
		      equivalent material conditions. 
		     
		    Why should they
		    live under approximately equivalent material conditions? Why should there
		    not be a disparity in their material conditions if the man earns his standard
		    of living and if the woman does not earn hers and if she withdraws the reciprocal
		    services which during marriage justified her sharing his? Why should she
		    be compensated for what she does not earn? The feminist movement began by
		    Ms. Friedan heaping scorn on the parasitic wives who performed only minimal
		    services in exchange for a virtually free ride. Why should a parasitic ex-wife
		    receive a wholly free ride for performing no services at all? What happened
		    to Ms. Friedan's rhetoric about women needing to gain self-respect by standing
		    on their own feet and facing life's challenges "without sexual favor or excuse"
		    ? 
 The "disparity" between the man's and the woman's earnings is the principal
		    reason most woman marry their husbands in the first place. Dr. Glendon would
		    make it an inducement for women to divorce them. She would make the male
		    earnings which were once (and properly) a means of strengthening marriage
		    into a means of weakening and destroying it. If the woman can simply take
		    the man's money, the man cannot offer it to her, since it is already hers--he
		    has lost his bargaining power, and with it his motivation to earn the income
		    she covets. The patriarchal system is based on putting sex and the family
		    (not sex-deprivation and the ex-family) to work as motivators of male
		    achievement. Dr. Glendon's "compensatory payment" for divorce wrecks the
		    system.
 
 The willingness of ex-husbands to pay child support money to ex-wives is
		    comparable to the willingness of blacks in the South a generation ago to
		    sit in the back of the bus. At the time it seemed natural because everyone
		    did it. When Rosa Parks decided she would no longer submit to this stupid
		    indignity and chose a seat at the front of the bus, segregated seating came
		    to an end. When American men realize not merely the stupidity, but the social
		    destructiveness of subsidizing matriliny, the feminist/sexual revolution
		    will come to an end and patriarchy will be restored.
 
 "Children are entitled to share the standard of living of their higher earning
		    parent," says Dr. Weitzman. Very good; except that Dr. Weitzman has no intention
		    that the children shall share Dad's standard of living unless the ex-wife
		    shares it too. Her sharing is presumed to be just because motherhood is sacred,
		    partaking of the divine. "Courts know," says one judge,
 
		      
		      that mother love
		      is a dominant trait in the hearts of the mother, even in the weakest of women.
		      It is of Divine Origin, and in nearly all cases, far exceeds and surpasses
		      the parental affection of the father. Every just man recognizes the fact
		      that minor children need the constant bestowal of the mother's care and
		      love.
		     
		    Why this
		    divinely-originating mother-love, when left to itself by the absence of a
		    father, inflicts upon children the conditions of the ghettos is a paradox
		    left unaddressed. But it is this divinity-of-motherhood idea that underlies
		    judges' anti-male bias: 
		     
		      
		      One Idaho court
		      [says Dr. Weitzman] concluded that the preference for the mother "needs no
		      argument to support it because it arises out of the very nature and instincts
		      of motherhood: Nature has ordained it." Similarly, a Florida court declared:
		      "Nature has prepared a mother to bear and rear her young and to perform many
		      services for them and to give them many attentions for which the father is
		      not equipped." 
		     
		    In 1974, the Utah
		    Supreme Court "brushed aside" a father's equal protection challenge to a
		    maternal preference custody statute stating that "the contention might have
		    some merit to it in a proper case if the father was equally gifted in lactation
		    as the mother. 
 A New Jersey judge spoke of "an inexorable natural force" dictating maternal
		    custody awards. A Maryland judge found
 
		      
		      The so-called
		      preference for the mother as the custodian particularly of younger children
		      is simply a recognition by the law, as well as by the commonality of man,
		      of the universal verity that the maternal tie is so primordial that it should
		      not lightly be severed or attenuated. 
		     
		    We pay these dummies
		    fancy salaries to perform this kind of reasoning, which lumps together as
		    "young" any offspring, from a neonate, damp from the womb and groping to
		    suckle from its mother's teat, to a teenage boy capable of committing crimes
		    of violence (and far more likely to commit them if he has no father) or a
		    teenage girl capable of breeding illegitimate children (and far more likely
		    to breed them if she has no father ). The judges focus attention on the neonate
		    and overlook the fact that neonates grow into teenagers who don't need Mom's
		    lactating but do need Dad's socializing if they are to become responsible
		    adults. 
 "Where the young, after birth, are still dependent on the mother," writes
		    feminist Charlotte Perkins Gilman,
 
		      
		      the functions of
		      the one separate living body needing the service of another separate living
		      body, we have the overlapping of personality, the mutual need, which brings
		      with it the essential instinct that holds together these interacting
		      personalities. That instinct we call love. The child must have the mother's
		      breast. The mother's breast must have the child. Therefore, between mother
		      and child was born love, long before fatherhood was anything more than a
		      momentary incident. But the common consciousness, the mutual attraction between
		      mother and child, stopped there absolutely. It was limited in range to this
		      closest relation; in duration, to the period of infancy. 
		     
		    Juvenile detention
		    centers are bursting with these "primordial" citizens, thanks to judges'
		    incomprehension of the fact that civilized society needs patriarchal
		    socialization as well as female biology. There is no need for judges to worry
		    about "severing" or "attenuating" Mom's biology. Mom isn't going anywhere--not
		    if Dad has assured custody of his children and assured possession of his
		    paycheck. She isn't going to give up her kids, her role, her status symbols
		    and her meal tickets. Judges suppose they must support the strongest link
		    in the two-parent family, the mother's role, because it is the strongest.
		    They should support the weakest link, the father's role, because it is the
		    weakest. It is by doing this that they support the two-parent family, the
		    patriarchal system and civilization. Lawmakers and judges don't know it but
		    it is for the purpose of stabilizing the two-parent family that patriarchal
		    society and the legal system exist. Mom got along without patriarchal society
		    and the legal system for two hundred million years, but Dad has got to have
		    them, and have them on his side or there will be no two-parent family. The
		    two-parent family isn't "natural." It isn't "biological." It isn't "primordial."
		    It is a cultural creation, artificial, fragile, like civilization itself,
		    both only a few thousand years old. The female-headed family is "natural"
		    and "biological" and "primordial," and that is why it is found in the barnyard
		    and the rain forest and in the ghetto and on Indian reservations and in surviving
		    Stone Age societies. The two-parent family is what makes civilization
		    possible--and vice versa--just as the breakdown of the two-parent family
		    is what makes the ghetto possible--and inevitable. Judges don't understand
		    this and that is why two- parent families are falling apart and why crime
		    and drugs and gangs and illegitimacy are out of control--why there is a Garbage
		    Generation. 
 "We seem to be in the process of change back to the single- parent method,"
		    says feminist Dr. Barbara Bergmann. Right. This is happening in the ghettos
		    because the welfare system makes male providers superfluous. It is happening
		    in the larger society because judges have no understanding of how patriarchy
		    works--of the fact that it must have the support of the legal system which
		    they are taking away from it. Reversion to the matriliny of the Stone Age
		    is the real program of the feminist/sexual revolution-- the abandoning of
		    the social organization based on male kinship and the return to the
		    tribal/matrilineal organization based on female kinship.
 
 As feminist anthropologist Helen Fisher says, men and women are returning
		    to the kind of roles they had on the grasslands of Africa millions of years
		    ago. This is what must be stopped, and the only way to stop it is to guarantee
		    fathers headship of families-- by guaranteeing them the custody of their
		    children and the secure possession of their paychecks.
 
		     
		      
		      Chapter
		      IChapter II
 Chapter III
 Chapter IV
 Chapter V
 Chapter VI
 Chapter VII
 Chapter VIII
 Chapter IX
 Chapter X
 Chapter XI
 Annex to chapter I
 Additional note
 References
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